im not superstitious, but sometimes these things seem to reflect some principle to me that leads me away from suffering.
one example is that prematurely declaring success can foil that success — even in ways that seem unconnected. ficticious case: i become a finalist for some writing award, and the night of the awards, because everyone is telling me i’m going to win, i phone my friend and say ‘i’m so going to win this thing, it’s practically in the bag’ … then i don’t. or i’m sure i got that job, but because i told someone about it, i didn’t get it. or i tell someone how my car has never needed more than an oil change for years, and it suddenly needs fixing.
being ‘too quick’ to assert what isn’t quite true yet is one way in which i can become disappointed and withdraw from what i’m doing when it doesn’t happen.
it can be called ‘realistic pessimism‘, which i would venture to say is more protective than unrealistic optimism, but i think both are illusory, more so anyway than some sort of “poptimism“. hah. nice word, eh?
it relates to my previous post about impermanence. if i live in the present, keeping in mind (even if at the back) that the present is not forever, i can begin to work on seeing something that hasn’t happened yet as .. well, not having happened yet. and because it hasn’t happened yet, i can’t declare that it has.
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the more i connect with myself in the present moment, the more i can speak from the present — who i am, and not who i desire to be, not who i was. and this — this is what will allow other people to meet me where i am at right now, it will enable both of us to see the ‘now me’ more clearly.
if i stay in the present moment, i can keep open to possibility. keep connected with myself, and i can feel what or who i am connected to around me. authenticity. the present moment.
namaste
Tags: attraction, awareness, impermanence, mind, suffering